You know the feeling. Your new dating partner is looking at you with those eyes…THOSE eyes. The eyes that say, “This is it. You’re the one. I’m falling for you.” Your heart starts pounding. Your breathing gets shallow. You feel yourself breaking out into a cold sweat. In that moment, your body tells you there is one answer and only one response to this situation…RUN!
If you find yourself repeating this scenario again and again, it’s possible you are suffering from an insecure-avoidant attachment style. It’s estimated that approximately 50 % of the U.S. population struggles with insecure attachment. A smaller percentage struggles with a very specific type of insecure attachment known as insecure-avoidant attachment.
If you have insecure-avoidant attachment, you might have difficulty starting and maintaining committed relationships. You are likely to find yourself becoming involved with people who feel overly attached or “clingy.” When you are not in a relationship, you might long to be in one. But as soon as another starts to get close, you feel the urge to run. After you run away, you might find yourself wondering why you left the relationship. You might even return to your partner, only to run away again. You repeat this pattern over and over again.
You are not alone. There are many people struggling with insecure-avoidant attachment. If you would like to learn more about your attachment style, click the button below. It connects to an anonymous, psychologically valid online test.
Once you know your attachment style, check this site for more information on how to move from an insecure-avoidant attachment style to an earned-secure attachment style. I look forward to helping you find and keep your true love!